Safety and security comes in many forms.  But, is it real?  How safe and secure are you?  What happens if your mom or dad loses their job?  Where is the safety and security?  Many people rely on 'false' safety and security.  They believe that as long as they have their job they're safe.  What happens when they lose their job?  They usually 'freak out' and the ego 'fear' based mind runs amok!

Let's say you'd like to be an actress but your parents don't support you.  What will this do to your safety and security?  How will you feel?  Chances are you'll feel pretty crummy because you thought your parents would support your decision.  But, do you really need your parents support to feel safe and secure with your decision.  No, you don't.  Would it make your home life a lot easier? Perhaps, but you must live your own life.

When you grow up and follow your passion, you may still search for the safety and security of family members by getting their approval on your choices in YOUR life.  What would make you do this?  You're still relying on safety and security from others instead of seeking support from others.

Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz on Hay House Radio is a medical intuitive.  She often speaks about dis-eases and illnesses in the body that are brought on by our fears and anxieties.  Some of these stem from our childhood.  If your parents don't support you with your decisions such as quitting the football team, you could suffer from 'anxieties' in your adult life.  You may say something such as "I worried that mom or dad will not support what I do."  You can turn that around and say "I'm going to get support and find a community of people who will support me."  

Avoid making the mistake of putting safety and security on others.  It's your responsibility.  It's not your future career, husband or wife, or kids to ensure that you FEEL safe and secure.  It's up to you.  Many adults don't understand this.  When they become afraid, they're ego takes over and becomes like a 'monkey mind' contemplating every worst case scenario.  And, they wonder why they have a lot of health issues.  

Avoid having a false sense of safety and security.  It will serve you now and in the future.  You can't be certain that 'the sky is falling' as Chicken Little proclaimed.  Take the high road and let your 'higher self' guide you.  It will do a much better job than your ego!

There are many people out there who are teaching spirituality.  It's God this, God that, and everything in between.  Some people believe that GOD is a mean, nasty old man who will punish you if you do wrong.  Others believe that God is all loving and forgives you no matter what you do or how you act.  Let's examine the latter.

If God loves and forgives, what is the reason that many people, especially children suffer in the world?  Perhaps you're one of those children.  If God is wants his "children" to be and feel loved; to be healthy and prosperous; and to be victorious, what is the reason for all the unrest in the world?  Where is God?  What kind of God would make children suffer?  This is something I don't understand because I believe children are innocent.  Without proper guidance or direction they can grow up, get off course, and run amok with their life!

I was pondering the "Where is God?" question while I was in the park today.  You see, I'm one of those people that decided that I was tired of being sick and tired in my miserable life.  I started reading the bible (I know) and books by Napoleon Hill, Louise Hay, Esther and Jerry Hicks, and many others.  I also read The Secret and later viewed the movie.  I wanted to "change my thoughts so I could change my life."  I'll let you in on a little secret; I'm still working on it!

Where is God when people judge each other?  What gives another the right to judge his fellow man or women?  If you find yourself judging someone, you're really judging yourself.  It's called the mirror reflection.  What you don't like in another is reflected back to you.


Where is God when you're going through horrific events in your life?  What kind of God would allow children all over the world suffer in poverty?  If we're all God's children and he wants us to live an abundant life, what's the reason that so many struggle from day to day?


Where is God in addiction?  Perhaps you know someone that is struggling with an addiction.  What kind of God would allow a person to shoot heroin or smoke crack?  I would think a loving and understanding God would "cure" a person of an addiction. Maybe they must ask for that first.

Where is God in your life?  Sometimes I feel like he/she has abandons me for an extended vacation!  The point to all of this is that we ALL go through the "where is God?" line of questioning in our lives -- even me!  We do our best to keep the faith but it gets more difficult with each passing day.  Thank God for art and music!

I'll leave you with this question to ponder:  Where is God?

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The following is from Care2Action, an organization that "provides powerful tools to make a difference in your life, community, country and world. It's driven by passionate people (just like you) who want to restore the world's balance."

From Care2Action

Within just two weeks this spring, Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover of Springfield, MA, and Jaheem Herrera of DeKalb, GA, returned from school with broken spirits and hanged themselves following relentless bullying and anti-LGBT taunts.

Demand action to stop anti-LGBT bullying in schools

These were just the reported cases -- thousands more suffer silently.  These heartbreaking student suicides are a chilling reminder to all of us that we need to stand up and take action to prevent the perpetuation of soul crushing anti-LGBT behavior that is claiming young lives.

Passing the Safe Schools Improvement Act (H.R. 2262) would mark a pivotal turning point in the crucial fight for safer schools.  It would establish -- for the first time in our nation's history -- a federal mandate for schools to adopt anti-bullying policies that include the categories of sexual orientation and gender identity/expression.

This act would ensure that schools no longer get a "pass" when they turn a blind eye to anti-LGBT behavior, and it would require them to address all forms of bullying.  Urge your representative to support the Safe Schools Improvement Act ! >> From Care2 

What can you do

To stop bullying, quit giving the bully attention.  That's all they really want.  Most bullies are so insecure that they pick on someone else to make themselves feel better.  It's been discovered that most bullies don't come from a healthy background. Their parents are usually abusive or into drugs and alcohol leaving their teen on her own.

Quit focusing on the bully.  Before you go to school AFFIRM that you are going to have a great day.  Wish that bully the best of luck, bless him, and send him packing!  Never, ever give your power away to another person!  It's up to you to stand up for yourself in a healthy and safe manner.  Start by AFFIRMING that you're powerful and deserve respect and understanding.  You'll be surprised how fast the bully can "disappear."  

Remember that thoughts become things.  If you want a bully to leave you alone once and for all, just affirm it.  Say something like, "...I am loved and protected and deserve to be loved and respected.  I send you (fill in the name) on your way, peace and blessings to you."  Keep doing this every day before you go to school, when you switch classes, at lunch time, when you leave school, and before you go to bed.  Reprogram your thoughts about your bully and watch as you don't give him another thought. You'll begin to enjoy school and attract friends that "mirror" you.  

Peace and blessings to you!

Some teens have parents that serve in the military.  They can be gone anywhere from 6-months to 6-years.  This can be tough on teens.  They may or may not understand the situation that the military faces on a daily basis and this can be scary.  Yes, the world can be a topsy-turvy place sometimes.

If you're a teen that has a parent serving in the military, be proud.  Not many people have the calling or even the gumption to serve their country.  Take comfort in knowing that your mom or dad is trying to keep you and the rest of the world safe.  The world is a better place because of service men and women.

You may want to seek the help of a life coach for teens to help you cope with a parent in the military.  A life coach can help you to keep moving forward with your life.  Just because your mom or dad is serving in the military doesn't mean you put your life on hold.  You still move forward the best you can.

How to Cope

1. Be proud that you're mom or dad is serving.
2. Keep a positive mind-set that your mom or dad is all right.
3. Know that your mom or dad has been highly trained.
4. Say a prayer for your mom and dad in the morning and at night.
5. Seek the help of a life coach.
   
6. Join groups for teens of military families.  Knowing that you're not alone can help you.

It's not easy when a parent serves in the military because they miss out on things such as baseball games, theater performances, birthdays, and other things.  Just think about HOW they may feel.  A parent doesn't want to disappoint a child, but sometimes it happens; that's life.  The best thing that you can do is to keep open communication they best that you can.  Don't hide or stuff your feelings down because you're afraid your mom or dad may feel bad.  Just be honest.

Life coaching can help you get through some rough times.  By looking forward, you can look forward to the day when your mom or dad comes home from serving.  Through life coaching, YOU can come up with a plan to stay focused and positive.  It's all inside of you.

Perhaps you're not doing well in school because you're worried about your mom and dad.  By working with a life coach for teens, you'll be able to sort things out and figure out HOW to become re-focused on school.  It's all up to you.  What can you do today to re-focus on school?  If you're grades have slipped, what can you do to bring them back up?

Remember, life coaching is all about moving forward and bringing out the answers that lie within you.  If you have a parent in the military, what can you do to cope?  Think about it and come up with a plan.  Ask for help.  You have the answers and can discover how you deal with your mom or dad serving in the military.