It's well known that teens become pregnant as early 12 or 14.  Is a teen ready to have sex that young?  My opinion is that teens are not emotionally mature enough to have or understand a sexual relationship.  Hell, most adults struggle to understand what a mature, emotional relationship is.  Add sex to that mix and you can have the makings of relationship disaster!  Being a teen parent will be filled with many challenges.  You will benefit from knowing what you'll be up against.

Understanding your situation

Coping as teen parent can be very difficult.  You may face ridicule at school, your parents may disown you, relatives maybe cold towards you, and your boyfriend could leave you.  All of this sounds super scary, but it could happen.

As a teen parent you must understand that you will face challenges such as keeping up with your school work and taking care of your baby or babies!  That's a lot of work!  Teens who decide to keep their baby must realize that life as they knew it is over and a new beginning will emerge.

Tip:  Avoid getting pregnant in the first place!

Teen parents must realize that it's not about you anymore.  It's about raising your son or daughter in healthy, positive environment and doing your best to keep up with your school work so you graduate.  The road ahead may seem long, winding, and bumpy.  Come to terms with it as best as you can.

Ask for assistance and about your rights

Parents of pregnant teens can assist their teens by being supportive.  What's done is done.  No amount of yelling, screaming, and lecturing will change the situation.  Keep the lines of communication open.  Your teen will need help with their pregnancy on an emotional, mental, physical, and financial level.

Tip:  Avoid getting pregnant in the first place!

Teens can seek government assistance for their pregnancy.  There are programs such as WIC which will provide you and your child with formula and food.  Of course, you are entitled to help from the father.  If that doesn't happen, your parents could provide you and your child with support.

Adoption is an alternative for teens.  You can give your baby to a loving couple who is ready both emotionally and financially to have a child.  Some adoptions are open so you can have somewhat of an active role in your child's life.  This is something to discuss with your parents and the father of your baby.

Teen parents get help

Teen parents feel unsupported as they deal with their pregnancy.  There is so much to think about such as the demands of a new baby to graduating from high school.  The good news is that you don't have to go it alone.  There are support groups that you can join or even attend schools for pregnant teens.  Check your local listings for groups in your area.

Parents usually go into shock when they hear that their "baby" is about to have a baby.  They usually blame themselves because they want a better life for their daughter or son.  It's best to accept and deal with the situation versus going into denial or playing the "blame game" because it will not improve the situation.

Being a teen parent is not easy.  You are a "baby" having a baby.  Recognize that you have options such as keeping your baby, giving your baby up for adoption, or abortion.  Think very carefully about your situation because once you make a decision, you may not be able to change your mind.  Take your time and ask for help no matter how difficult it seems.  Peace!