Parents do their best to raise their teens with morals, values, and ethics.  What happens when you don't practice what you preach?  For example, if you abhor name calling, but you call someone a name, how is this practicing what you preach?  It's not -- you're being a hypocritic.

Teens are smart enough to recognize that parents may say one thing but mean something else.  You tell your teens to be polite and treat people with respect, but you bad mouth people at the office or online, your spouse, your sibling, or friend.  It doesn't make sense to teens.

Practicing what you preach will show your teens that you "walk your talk."  How will teens respect you if you tell them not to do something but you go ahead and do what you told them not to do?  Teens will lose respect for you because you did the opposite of what you expect them to do.

Like it or not, your teens obseve your actions.  This is how they learn.  If you're not kind to someone, they'll pick up on that and believe they can treat people without respect.  If you're negative all of the time, the negativity will rub off onto them.  Before you know it, you're living in a toxic environment that's not safe for anyone.

Teens need good role models in their life so they'll become upstanding and productive citizens.  Moms and dads, you're responsible for guiding their teens through life and shaping their values system.  Do the best you can -- start by practicing what you preach!

Extreme Makeover Home Edition is known for rebuilding a family's home and dreams.  Some families run nonprofit organizations that benefit teens in the community.  Here are a few of those families that have been showcased on Extreme Makeover Home Edition.

The Wagstaff Family

The February 21, 2010 Extreme Makeover Home Edition featured the Wagstaff who started the nonprofit music school Studio Percussion.  They were sent to the Rock N' Roll Hall Fame in Cleveland, OH.  They were treated to a surprise meet and greet with the members of the band KISS.  The family's home is not only livable, but ready for sweet music that the family will create together.

The Tripp Family

"Extreme Makeover: Home Edition traveled to Prince George's County, MD - with celebrity volunteer Tyler Perry -- to tell Nikema, aka "Tripp," and Tamara Tripp that their small house, in need of major repairs they can't afford, will be rebuilt in seven days."

"Over three decades ago, Tripp's father ran a bus ministry for the Woodland Baptist Church, hoping to make his rough neighborhood a better place.  Now a generation later, Tripp and Tamara are continuing a family tradition of service and generosity.  About 40 kids each week and over 90 children on holidays board the bus for fun and safe activities that have ranged from bowling on a Friday night to flower arranging for Mother's Day."  Read more at TV Grapevine.

These and other families not only open their homes, they open their hearts to help teens in their community.  What do you do to help teens in your area?  What could you do to help teens in need?  If we all pitch in, we could make a difference in the lives of many teens around the USA and the world!

It's no secret that teens grow up faster than previous generations.  Technology moves faster than the speed of light, television shows are more dramatic and steamier, and advertisements for material items bombard teens at every turn.  Being a teen is not like it was back in the day.

Teens still face peer pressure and raging hormones.  However, the game has changed.  Many years ago, teens would never dream of "coming out of the closet."  In fact, some teens stay in the closet because of fear.  What would you do if you teen told you he or she was gay, lesbian, or transgender?  How would you react?  Would you still love you teen?  Would you disown them?  These are questions parents may want to ponder.

Loving your teen no matter what means just that.  You take the good along with the bad and heartbreaking and move forward with your life.  This is probably easier said than done for most parents.  Remember, your teen came through you.  Once they're out in the world all bets are off.  Sure, they share your same DNA, but that doesn't mean they'll be exactly like you.  They are, after all, an individual.

Perhaps your teen has a disability.  With love and support they can lead a normal life and be the best they can be.  In fact, most teens with disabilities do more than healthy teens!  I remember my mom's friend whose son had Cerebral Palsy. He held a job at the age of 16, bought his own van, went to college, got an apartment with a roommate, started his own business, and bought a house.  He's an amazing and inspirational person that helps people like him to succeed in life.  Don't write-off your teens if they have a medical issue.  You'd be surprised at what people can do when they have love and support.

Being a teen today is not like it was when you were a teen.  You had your issues to deal with, we all did, but it's a different world today.  Teens deal with local and world issues.  They are constantly bombarded with images in the media that can make your head spin. Love your teens no matter what because love is what they need the most right now!

Oh boy!  Some parents still think they're 16 years-old.  They consider themselves their teen's friend and not their parent.  This is a dangerous scenario.  Here's a tip:  your teen has enough friends -- they need a parent!

I can remember some of my friends' parents tried to be their friend.  This is was a disaster.  Um, a forty-three year-old acting like a 16 year-old is not a pretty picture.  It's embarrassing for the teen and for the parent.  Parents are better off acting their age not their shoe size!

BTW:  If your teen doesn't have friends -- that's another story and blog post.

Teens need parents to be parents.  Being a teenager today is not like it was centuries ago.  Life has evolved and moves at warp speed.  Parents are responsible for loving, guiding, and nurturing their teen.  They are not supposed to be hanging out as if they're part of the gang.  It's fantastic that parents are involved in their teen's life, but you must draw the line.

It's the responsibility of parents to mold and shape teens so they'll be able to function when you are not there.  Remember, life is fleeting and you can go at any moment.  Preparing your teen for life now will serve them later.  If you're too busy being their friend, your teen will suffer for it.

Parents, you had your turn at being 16 years-old.  It's time for you to pass the torch to your teen.  Be the best parent you can be.  By the way, many teens would prefer their parents to be parents and not their friend.  Think about that before you decide to "crash" your daughter's sleepover!

Some parents live vicariously through their teens.  Once upon a time, they were the all-star quarterback, head cheerleader, class president, or valedictorian.  Your high school days are over and it's time to move forward with your life.

Parents make the mistake of living through their teens.  Perhaps your dad didn't make the football team.  Now he expects you to be the quarterback, win every game, and go to the state championship.  Unfortunately, you have no interest in sports.  What's a teen to do?  Gently put your parents in their place and remind them high school has been over for them for quite some time.  It's time for your parents to live in the now.

Many teens have parents that want them to have the same dreams and goals as they did.  Here's a fact:  you created your teen that's it.  Once your teen is out all bets are off.  What you share is DNA and perhaps a few characteristics, that's it.  Your teen is an individual with their own mind which they'll use to create their own dreams.  You may think you can influence them, but it will not work.  The outcome is never good.

The fastest way to push your teen away from you is to live vicariously through them.  The past is gone and you can't go back and change it.  What you can do is embrace the present and do your best to make your dreams come true.  You may not be the all-star quarterback or head cheerleader, but you can be the best parent you can be and more!

Many parents are known as "helicopter" parents.  This means they hover all around their teens.  They show up at school unannounced, soccer games turn ugly, shopping for clothes turns into Project Runway, and dating becomes a disaster.  Avoid being a helicopter parents because it could back fire on you.

Hovering around your teens is not healthy.  It's great that you care about your teens, but lighten up!  You can suffocate your teens without even knowing it.  If you love and support your teens, they'll make the right choices most of the time.  Cut your teen some slack because they'll make mistakes.  This is how they learn and grow as a person.

Some parents are control freaks which is why they hover over their teens.  This will only push your teens away from you.  Teens need space and room to breathe.  Allow them to experience life and learn what it has to offer.  Allow them to experience the Law of Cause and Effect.  They'll soon find out that every action has a consequence.  If they keep making the same mistake over and over again, you can step in and show them what not to do.  Until then, back off!

Helicopter parents often do more harm than good.  Why?  Your teens will not be prepared to take care of themselves when they reach adulthood.  When your teens go off to college, will you go with them?  No, you will not.  Some parents have the audacity to call college professors when their child receives a bad grade.  Your teen received a bad grade because you probably did their homework for them when they were in high school.  Yes, there are parents who do their teen's homework.  This is not productive. 

If you don't give teens responsibility and do everything for them, how will they function in the world?  The answer is they will not be able to function and will live with you forever!  This may sounds a little far off, but it could happen.

Resist the urge to be a helicopter parent.  Allow your teens to make mistakes and learn from them.  Let them stand up for themselves and fight their own battles.  You can guide and council your teens, but allow them to make decisions on their own.  By the way:  showing your teens how to cook, do laundry, balance a checkbook, etc...This is not a bad idea either.