Encourage Your Teens Not Discourage Them 11/17/2009
![]() There's nothing worse than parents who make teens feel bad about themselves. How did your parents treat you? Perhaps your parents didn't encourage you, but instead pointed out flaws or "nitpicked" at you. How did it make you feel? You probably did not feel that great about yourself. You probably had low self-esteem because of it. Stop the cycle today. This way your teen will turn out to be a well adjusted adult. Encouraging teens to be and do their best will make a world of difference. So what if your teenage daughter is not athletic, she's probably a science whiz who will find cures for diseases! It's best to encourage her to stick with her studies rather than make or force her to be a softball star. What do teens know Teens either know what they like or will discover what they like and dislike. Allow them to explore many options. Yes, it's important to stick with something, but if they're bored out of their mind playing a musical instrument, it's not worth the time or money. Let them find their passion at their own pace. Parents can encourage their teens to just be themselves. Quit comparing your teens to other teens or to siblings. It's no wonder why there is such a thing as sibling rivalry! Each teen is different, just accept it. Just because they have the same DNA doesn't mean they will be exactly alike in all ways. It doesn't work that way. You may as well get over it! No two teens are the same All teens are unique and special. They have different talents and interests. Parents, encourage your teens to be the best they can be in life. If they enjoy art, don't force sports onto them because you were the head cheerleader or quarterback. Make sure teens stay in school and graduate. Some teens do find school very boring (I did) and not challenging enough. Find alternative schooling options and activities they can join that will stimulate their mind. For example, home schooling teens or sending them to a private or charter school could be better for them than public school. Recognize that not every teen will enjoy college and or university. Some may choose to go to a trade or art school. It's their choice. Who knows, years from now they may decide to continue their education with a four-year degree at your alma mater! Love your teens no matter what The worst kind of love is conditional which is "I'll love you if you do this or that." Unfortunately, many parents were raised with conditional love. Avoid making the same mistake with your teens. Love them no matter how they dress or wear their hair. Remember how you felt when your parents told you not to wear spandex or stirrup pants with a fluorescent shirt. I thought so! |



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